Just like your health,
relationships benefit from
regular checkups.
Healthy relationships do not stay that way by accident. They take attention, not just during hard times, but as an ongoing investment in each other. A Relationship Checkup offers dedicated time to reflect on where you are, strengthen how you communicate, and deepen your connection before small patterns become bigger concerns.
A Checkup is relationship education rather than therapy. Think of it as intentional maintenance for a relationship you care about.
Schedule a CheckupYou do not have to be
struggling to benefit.
A Relationship Checkup tends to be a good fit for couples who want to invest in what they have, whether things are mostly good and you want to keep it that way, or you have noticed something shifting and want to get ahead of it.
Wanting to invest in the relationship before small patterns become entrenched
Noticing some distance or communication difficulty and wanting to address it early
Looking for practical tools for connection and communication you can actually use
Wanting a clearer picture of where you are as a couple
Looking to reconnect after a busy or stressful stretch
Wanting to be more intentional about your relationship going forward
Two focused sessions.
Flexible format.
Most couples complete a Relationship Checkup in two focused sessions, three hours in total. Together, we look at what is already working, explore patterns in communication and connection, and identify practical ways to stay aligned as partners.
The format is flexible. Some couples prefer two sessions a week apart. Others build a Relationship Checkup into a meaningful moment, like an anniversary trip, a babymoon, or a weekend away, when they are already carving out intentional time together.
The process can be shaped around what works best for you.
Because the Checkup is relationship education, no diagnosis is made and nothing becomes part of a treatment record. That also means it is open to couples anywhere, and it is not billable to insurance.
What is already working
We start with your strengths, including what you are doing well and what is worth protecting as you grow together.
Patterns in communication
Understanding how you talk to each other, and where things tend to break down, so you can respond differently.
Practical tools
Skills for connection and communication you can actually use, not just in sessions but in everyday life together.
Written feedback report
After your sessions, you will receive a written summary of what we covered, including key patterns, strengths, and practical takeaways to refer back to.
A plan going forward
Leaving with clarity on where you are, what you want to build on, and how to stay intentional about it.
When another format
fits better.
A Checkup works best when things are mostly steady. If your situation sounds more like one of these, another format may serve you better. The free consultation is a good place to sort that out.
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Frequently asked questions.
Is a Relationship Checkup therapy?
No. A Checkup is relationship education grounded in relationship science. Dr. Lenger is a licensed psychologist, but no diagnosis is made, no treatment is provided, and the Checkup is not a substitute for couples therapy or individual mental health care.
Do we need to be married or engaged?
No. The Checkup is for couples at any stage, including couples who are dating or not yet engaged. If you are preparing for marriage specifically, the Premarital Checkup goes deeper into expectations, finances, family of origin, and shared goals. You can find it on the services page.
How is the Checkup different from the Mini Intensive?
The Checkup is a broad look across your whole relationship, including what is working, what needs attention, and what to do about it. The Mini Intensive is couples therapy focused on the one cycle you keep getting caught in. If you want the big picture, start with the Checkup. If one thing keeps happening and you want to work on it, start with the Mini.
What if it turns out we need more than a Checkup?
If it becomes clear that couples therapy or another service would serve you better, Dr. Lenger will pause the Checkup and talk through options with you, including a referral if that is the best fit.
Where can we be located?
Anywhere. Because the Checkup is educational rather than clinical, it is open to couples regardless of location. All sessions are held virtually, over secure video.
Do you take insurance?
Because the Checkup is educational and no diagnosis is made, it is not eligible for insurance reimbursement, and no superbill is provided.
Checking in on your relationship
now can go a long way.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to learn more about whether a Relationship Checkup is the right fit for you.
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